How many different labels do you have for yourself? The list can go on and on. I am learning that I don’t have to identify myself in those segmented ways like I used to. I could just be myself and show up as myself in all my different responsibilities or in all my different labels. It’s just really interesting. And so President Nelson, talked a little bit about this right. And he said, he suggests that we have three main labels, Child of God, child of the covenant, and disciple of Christ, and that if we pay attention to those three labels, all the other labels I think, take care of themselves. Yet we use the other labels against us! Maybe we even use these three main labels against us too.

What I used to do is think that once all the things on my list were done, then with whatever time was left over, I would do what I want to do. Once that time time came, I didn’t do the thing I really wanted to do. It might not even be the thing that would really fill me it was just like, ‘finally,’ but then I was so tired and I didn’t even have the energy to do anything that I wanted to do. Right? So it turned into I can chill, I could just like turn on a show and chill. Which is fine right? But really wasn’t what would fill me. it wasn’t the thing that I wanted to do. I wanted to read a book, but I was too tired by the end of the night to read a book. I was falling asleep. Or I wanted to play the piano, but it would wake up everyone else.

As a people pleaser, I used to show up different with different friends even. I was reactionary instead of intentional. This alone causes stress response.

We like to beat ourselves up for not being productive all day long, but doing the part of that is, what Steven R Covey calls, sharpening the saw. We have to take care of ourselves, too.

I know, we all hear about self care, that is not what this is about. I mean it’s not taking a bubble bath and eating bon bon. You might have other thoughts about “self care”. I am talking about how we internally create burnout because we don’t believe deserve to replenish until we are caught up. That never happens though, right?

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